Amy: In honor of Father’s Day, I wanted to release a special blog post asking you questions about what it’s like being a new Dad.
Ok – first question: What do you like best about being a Dad?
Marc: I like how things are constantly changing. You’re always learning something new and trying to figure it out. I like how I get to re-live things with him. I want him to see new things, to see everything so I get to take him to do things like I’ve never done them before.
Amy: What’s your greatest fear involving Max?
Marc: I have this recurring fear that, for some reason, as I’m deadlifting, I see Max underneath the deadlift bar and weights. So I have to try to hold the deadlift at the top of toss it away to try to save him. It’s ridiculous. Why is he under the deadlift bar? How did he get there?
Amy: Yes that’s bizarre but I understand. I’m always worried about dropping him on concreate or I worry about someone sneaking into his bedroom and stealing him in the middle of the night.
So the same year I was diagnosed with cancer, your own Dad passed away. It made 2016 a pretty big kick in the stomach.
What quality did your own Dad have that you would like to embody as a father?
Marc: My Dad always did what he said he was going to do. He always followed through. There was no wavering or fuss. He would just do it.
He was also good at everything. He could do carpentry. He understood engineering and politics and photography.
Amy: What is your favorite memory of your Dad?
Marc: The meals he would make when my Mom was away. He would make this spaghetti carbonara dish with bacon for sure. He would also be the one to pick us up from anything. You could always count on him for that.
Amy: I think my favorite memory of your Dad was from the day after your best friend’s wedding (which your Mom and Dad attended too). Your Dad remarked “there was a lot of butt grabbing at that wedding dance” and I said well I think your son had something to do with that (referring to how you always grab my butt, especially when you have been drinking) and he replied “I wasn’t going to say anything.” I think it was just his tone. Makes me laugh thinking about it.
Tell me three adjectives you hope will describe you as a Dad?
Marc: Involved. Fun loving. Good spirited.
Amy: If you could pick one sport for Max to play, what would it be? Why?
Marc: Soccer so his head would be protected (e.g no concussions). Or maybe gymnastics because it will allow him to transfer skills to other sports.
Amy: What’s your favorite thing to do with Max so far?
Marc: I just like making him smile. That’s my favorite thing.
Amy: What’s your favorite thing about Max?
Marc: He is really smiley.
Amy: I wonder where he gets that from? (side bar: it’s clearly from Marc – he’s always smiling) How would you like Max to describe you as a father when he is an adult?
Marc: My. Dad. Is. The. Best. Simple and straightforward.